made this video because i get a lot of questions whenever people notice that i had top surgery before going on hormones. sorry for the annoying buzzing from time to time. my computer thinks it’s an airplane trying to take off.
general update: thoughts about bottom surgery and coming out to my friends here.
finally some responses to some of the dumb comments i get on here
1. “i can’t believe that you used to be a girl” / “i can’t believe that you were born a girl” / “i never would have guessed that you used to be a girl”
perhaps it’s so hard to believe because, well, i’ve always been male. but thanks for the attempted compliment or whatever your disbelief was intended to come across as.
2. “why did you decide to change gender?”
my old gender was starting to smell and itch like a pair of dirty underwear. no, really, i know this is hard for some people to grasp, but i neither decided on nor changed anything.
3. “are you transgender, or just a male who took T?”.
the two are not mutually exclusive. i might be more willing to divulge my personal medical history and explain my identity to you if you appreciated this fact.
4. “is it hard to be you?”
not nearly as hard as it must be to have no social grace.
5. “i can still see the girl in you. no matter how hard you try, it will always be obvious.”
well, no matter how hard you try, you probably can’t do anything about the fact you’re such an asshole, but you might want to go get your eyes checked, and at least try to learn some manners.
yes. especially the “don’t out me as trans” bit. in my experience, other trans people need that reminder just as often as cis-folks.
2011.12.27
3 years on T
things not to say to transguys
major pet peeve: when people think that something along the lines of “i never would have guessed you used to be a chick” is a compliment. so many things wrong with this…where do i begin!?
How about with: Wow I never would have thought you were an insensitive prick.
haha. that is exactly where i begin (and end) if i am truly dealing with an insensitive prick. i am never surprised or even bothered when it comes from them. i expect it. the thing that really gets to me and makes me facepalm is that there are a lot of open-minded, accepting, understanding people who actually have good intentions when they say things like this. they are the kind of people who are capable of being enlightened; the problem is just that i never have the energy to enlighten them.
things not to say to transguys
major pet peeve: when people think that something along the lines of “i never would have guessed you used to be a chick” is a compliment. so many things wrong with this…where do i begin!?
30 day trans challenge: video for week three
super belated video for week three! life got in the way, plus my webcam has only been working on and off for weeks. the questions i cover in this video include:
14) what are some of your passing tips or things you do to pass? (a legit answer to this since i glossed over it in the last video, beginning at 0:06)
15) how have you embraced your trans identity? (beginning at 01:47)
16) what’s your rock anthem and why? (beginning at 02:51)
17) what’s your binding choice and why? (beginning at 03:08)
18) how do you feel about the trans laws where you live? (beginning at 03:58)
19) if you are religious, how do your views affect being trans? if you’re not religious, what about your family’s religion? (beginning at 05:40)
20) do you want to be a parent? Why or why not? (beginning at 06:07)
21) your views on the cis-gendered community. (beginning at 06:50)
